Elul 6: Want

by Rebecca Einstein Schorr on 17 August 2018 @ 12:06 am

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I try to choose my words carefully. Especially when speaking to my children. Because I know that they are always listening.

In particular, the word want.

We don’t use it enough.

We carelessly use the word need in its stead.

But really, what do we need?

According to Abraham Maslow, we have only a few needs. Food, water, air, physical safety, emotional support, and so forth. (He goes into much greater detail, of course.)

Everything else?
Wants.
The newest iPhone?
The coolest car?
The most enviable vacation?
All wants.
Our physical survival does not depend on them.

By making a conscious and verbal distinction between wants and needs, my sense of fulfillment and satisfaction has increased. Feelings of envy are nothing more than fleeting thoughts. Instead of feeling as though I don’t have all the amazing things that others have or get to do all the amazing things that others do, I am aware that all of my needs are met.

Anything else is extra.

And how very fortunate I am to need, and, therefore, want for nothing.

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#BlogElul 2018

#BlogElul is a monthlong exploration of themes pertaining to the High Holy Days. Created by R’ Phyllis Sommer, the #BlogElul #ElulGram project allows participants to delve into topics as a way of preparing for the season.

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