Pictures in My Mind

by Rebecca Einstein Schorr on 31 August 2015 @ 6:55 am

I love snapping photographs of my children. I try not to go overboard. For their sake as well as for mine.

Today, we went on an adventure. Something that we don’t do very often. It’s hard to do things with Ben. It always has been. And, unfortunately, we got in the habit of taking the easier route. Which is to say — we just haven’t made a habit of doing things as a family. The other kids, therefore, are unaccustomed to doing the normal, fun things that other families do.

Warren’s cousin was here for the weekend. And we were determined to take advantage of the three-on-three defense strategy. Plus, it was his birthday so we were esepcially motivated to make it a fun weekend. So we chose —

inner tubing on the Delaware River!

We’d talked about doing it for years, but the timing just never worked for us. But this weekend was going to be different.

I’d be lying if I said that everything went smoothly. We got a much later start to the day. It took a great deal of convincing to get Ben into the car due to his anxiety. Ben likes to eat at High Noon so we needed to stop for lunch — even though we’d all recently had a late breakfast. And some other slight snafus.

But we got there.
And we had fun.

Not a single picture exists of the day in any form other than in my mind.

There was no way I was going to chance getting my phone wet. Plus, I didn’t want to chance missing a single moment of the experience. I wanted to live in the present. Without worrying about getting the perfect shot. Or any shot, for that matter.


(This looks similar to the day we had today.)

It was a picture-perfect day. Just without the pictures.
One I’ll remember for a long time.


Weekly Roundup: Planning Ahead

by Rebecca Einstein Schorr on 28 August 2015 @ 6:13 am

Weekly Roundup

I’m not exactly certain when it happened, but Lil has a new hobby. Baking.


Not the Dunkin Heines kind of baking. The “from scratch” kind.

Take earlier this week. Ben got his braces removed and Lilly wanted to make something that had been on the list of forbidden foods. “Caramel,” she said. Except Ben isn’t a huge fan of caramel. Instead, she went online, got a bunch of recipes, and created a cupcake inspired by the caramel: a spice cupcake filled with apple-pie filling and topped with cinnamon buttercream frosting and a caramel drizzle.

Who is this kid?

That was on Monday.

Everything for tomorrow’s batch is measured and out on the counter. Uncle Andy is coming to visit this weekend and it’s his birthday. Not that Lil needs an excuse to bake…


You’ve heard of the Bechdel test, right? It’s a way of determining whether a movie, or other type of media, is woman-friendly. In order to pass, the film must have (a) at least two women (b) who talk to each other (c) about something other than men. Though it apparently began as a type of joke, it has, in fact, become a common standard for feminist critics and plain, ole’ regular people alike.

But then this appeared in The Atlantic [Monthly] earlier this week:


I didn’t write this article. I bring it up, however, because it is just such a mentschy move on Alison Bechdel’s part. She wants the world to know that the idea stemmed from a conversation she had with her friend, Liz Wallace. She didn’t have to do this. But, in her mind, it was the right thing to do. I think she should get serious mentsch points for that.

So from this moment forward, it shall be known as the Bechdel-Wallace test.

[Here’s a really great piece on being a mentsch by Guy Kawasaki.]


Sure, camp is over. But it’s never too early to start taking notes for Summer 2016.

Camp Essentials

My friends over at Kveller asked me to come up with a list of beyond-the-obvious essentials for Jewish overnight camp. Did I miss anything? What would you add to the list?


Have a great Shabbat…see you on the flip-side.

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